Male Fears #3 - The Cuckold: Darkest Heart of Human Failure

One of a guy's greatest fear, at least the way I see it from my own masculine mind and experiences and reflections, is the fear of his girlfriend or wife being with another man sexually, allowing another man to touch her in her most private places, invading and volating not just herown physical being but the bond of trust and faith that had once bound the two together. True, you could argue that this fear might relate to a man whose girlfriend or wife is not sexually unfaithful, but is emotionally unfaithful, but that is a little harder to define, or even prove, whereas physical fidelity is provable, and creates much more of an impact on the male psyche. (Not to say women don't feel as devastated, but I'm only concerned with the male mind here.)

One of the main fears a man has about being a cuckold is based on the fact that the entire notion of faithfulness is based upon physical fidelity, the promise of one lover to another that they will only let the other touch their body for reasons of passion and carnal pleasures. Two people who committ to each other promise their physical beings to one another, to be touchd and pleasured and held and kissed and felt only by themselves. When you think about it, it almost seems rediculous, absurd, artifical, socially constructed or invented, unnatural, that another person would have this right over our own body, that another person could lay claim to our physicalbeing and demand that this body is not to be toched by another person on this planet, and only he or she can touch it. From where else in nature other than the human mind or human social/cultural system would such a restriction originate?

Something weird happens to a man who is insecure and fears the worstof all possible fears, his girlfriend, his woman, sleeping with another man, giving up her body to a stranger or even a recent lover or previous boyfriend, allowing her most privateness to be opened and revealed and touched and made to make her feel pleasure, her giving it upand giving herself over, her entire body, to another. On some dark deep level he fears as if his whole self is being destroyed, as if his whole meaning was based upon his abilty to wina woman and hold her with him, satisfy her enough on alllevels so she would not need another man. For her to be wth another man means he has failed, he is weak, he has failed.